Sick Of Singlehood? Here's What You May Be Doing Wrong...

If singlehood had a Facebook profile, its relationship status would be “it's complicated.”

It's the ultimate love-hate relationship. Some people savor the single life, some people can't stand it. And regardless of which side of the singlehood debate you fall on, you've probably had at least a few experiences that made you seriously consider switching teams.

If you're the confirmed bachelor/bachelorette type, congratulations. Finding your perfect match is as easy as looking in the mirror. But if you fall into the unattached-and-unhappy-about-it category, life can seem a little more bleak. You're more than ready to find love, so why isn't love ready to find you?

You've had some bad relationships. You've dated some disappointing people. And there are ways to improve both of those things. But what you should really be focused on improving is yourself, because you're the common denominator in every dead-end relationship you've ever had. So what might you be doing wrong?

You're shallow. How long is your list of dealbreakers? How many of them actually matter? You don't need someone who's over 6 ft tall, or red-headed, or rich, or a lover of country music, or a 49ers fan. You need someone who makes you feel good. Focus on the things that create real compatibility, not superficial characteristics that aren't likely to stand the test of time.

You're too negative. Don't let your personal history get the better of you. It doesn't matter how bad your family life was or how many awful relationships you've been in. Your past belongs in the past. Approach new relationships with an open mind and an open heart and, above all, approach them with a positive attitude.

You're not honest about what you're looking for. If what you want is a relationship – serious, committed, and long-term – then be upfront about it right from the beginning. Don't hide your interest in a serious relationship because you think it will scare dates away. You will only end up wasting precious time dating people who don't share your relationship goals.

You're worried you're not good enough. Do you think the reason you haven't settled down yet is that you're just not good enough to be someone's partner? Well I have news for you: you've got it all wrong. Finding love starts with loving yourself. The most perfect person you could ever be is the person you already are. Discover what makes you amazing.

That's the bad news. But there's good news too: it's all fixable. You are the single thing on this planet that you have the unlimited capacity to change. Use it wisely, focus on transforming yourself into a positive, confident, goal-oriented dater, and the single life might be over faster than you think.

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How Do I Meet Girls of My Own Age?

By Tim Phillips | December 30, 2010

While meeting girls itself is a wonderful experience and morale lifter, but meeting girls who are younger could well work in the opposite, sometimes.

Younger girls could be a mismatch
They might well sound immature and have a different approach to life than you have. In case you are a serious guy looking for some serious relationship it is advised you stay off the group as there is likelihood that younger girls well harbor childish notions on a man-woman relationship.

Under such circumstances looking for girls of your age will be ideal. And finding girls of your age should not be that great a difficulty, especially if you are in school, college or university, unless and until you are the shy type or overtly reserved or an introvert. The only other possibility of not finding girls of your age could be at work. There could be girls of your age but they might be already engaged and that is why you are unable to track the lady of equal age.

Where could you possibly find the girl you want?
Socializing could be the key because that gives many opportunities for you to meet same age group gals. You need to get out of the shell that you have built and look around for there is no chance that you will not find one. Meeting people, partying, sometimes even chatting online or looking for girls online can be a great option to find a girl of your age. There are many sites that will give access to girls of your age and there is more scope for you to kick off a conversation with them without any apprehensions and can build a meaningful friendship thereon.

Try contacting your old friends or classmates
There could be a chance you have not been in touch with old friends for a long time and here is a golden opportunity to catch up with them. Just think of the girls you had a crush on and were never able to disclose it to them, try to contact them, it could be pleasant surprise else move on there are many roses in the garden, you don’t have to sulk.

Or search you telephone diary you might find the number of the neighbourhood gal with whom you spent some good time during your teens. Taking positive steps and honestly searching for the girl of your age for sure will not let you down.

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