Texting and E-mailing Affects on Relationships

By Tim Phillips | July 10, 2011

Relationships seem to become more and more complicated with all the new high-tech options available. It seems that communication with the person you are in a relationship with is less face to face and more technology as the years of texting and emailing continue to take over.

It seems that with the advancements of technology less and less people are actually interacting with each other face to face and are more likely to have longer conversations over text messaging and email messaging. This could be affecting many relationships causing them to be less likely to be successful as neither party are actually talking and having lack of communication.

This is not stating that text messaging and email messaging is a bad thing, but when you make it your main source of communication you’ll slowly discover that when you are with this person physically that there is not much to talk about. Technology has really been taking its toll on the world and it’s not affecting how people interact within their relationships.

When you feel the need to email or text message your partner all throughout the day and then see them in the evenings you may quickly notice that since you’ve told them everything that’s already happened throughout your day there is little to talk about in the evening.

Another thing that happens on regular occasions is the flack out dump of a person with the use of text messaging and emailing. People seem to use either of these to end things with a person instead of doing it verbally which seems to be a coward move for whoever is using this method of break up.

There are many affects that happen to a relationship due to texting and emailing and it seems to be almost impossible to avoid as the years continue. With the advancements of computers and mobile phones it seems that everyone is using them and everyone is always texting or emailing. Verbal communication seems to become more minimal then before and personal conversations are becoming more likely done with a text message or email.

Don’t find your relationship being centered around text messaging and email. It is nice to leave your partner a lovely little text message or email occasionally, but if you get in the habit of using it as your main source of communication you will never get to know each other on the personal level you should without the use of texting or emailing.

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Treat the Ones You Love Better Than Anyone Else in the World

Posted on 01/24/2010

Instead of taking for granted those with whom you are most familiar, pay them the most attention. You need to cherish and nurture them and think about them as much if not more than you think of yourself.

You need to constantly be on the alert for ways to improve their lives, ways to please them, and ways to make them happy. Go out of your way to do things you are sure they want and love not what you want or think they would want.

For example, let’s say you are passing a gift shop and notice a cobalt blue pen in the window. You know that cobalt blue is your friend’s favorite color, and you also know that she loves pens. Stop what you are doing and go out of your way to surprise her with this thoughtful gift.
A client of mine knew that his girlfriend loved the perfume from the spa at the Parc Monceau Hotel in Paris. The perfume wasn’t available anywhere else in the world. He made special arrangements to have several bottles shipped to her directly; it wasn’t her birthday or any holiday, he just wanted to show her that he cared about her enough to go out of his way to find the perfume and have it shipped from Paris.

It helped to cement their relationship and make them even closer. I know many women who have received marriage proposals from their husbands after they went out of their way to do something spectacular for them.

Pamper the people you love constantly. Cherish them and indulge them at all times, thereby making them feel as though they are the most important person in the world especially your world. Kiss them the way they want to be kissed, hold them the way they want to be held, and love them as they want to be loved.

Speak to them the way they want to be spoken to. By respecting their needs and putting them first, you can’t help seeing things from their viewpoint. The more you do for them, the more they will cherish and appreciate you, and the more they will do for you.

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After You Say No, It Is Rape

Posted on 01/11/2010

Many men’s definition of rape does not apply to their own behavior or that of their male friends. Some men, as well as women, honestly believe that men cannot control themselves when they are sexually aroused.

They believe the girl or the woman is responsible for both arousing and controlling the man. This is absolute rubbish. At any age, a man is perfectly able to control his sexual drive at any point, from first arousal to climax. But, the attitude that men are not responsible for their actions with women is not a new idea.

Many men young and old still have the fantasy that once they are aroused they have a right to have sex with a woman, regardless of her wants, desires, or needs.

Someone might say:
“If a woman gets in my Mercedes without wearing a bra, she’s asking for it!” Another man agreed, saying that any woman who goes up to a man’s apartment, or allows a man into her apartment, is saying she wants to have sex.

Such attitudes have been created and taught by fathers, grandfathers, and yes, even by mothers. Some women today still believe that it’s a woman’s job to control the man’s behavior, and that women just have to tolerate the assaults.

Rape is about power. Men rape to get power over women. These men often feel powerless in their lives, and so they look for a way to increase their sense of self worth by controlling and manipulating another “weaker” human being.

Of course, this is a flawed idea, and rape doesn’t give the rapist any lasting sense of power or self-worth, so he may continue to commit the crime until it becomes increasingly violent.

Let’s be clear about this point of control. A woman is not responsible for keeping a man in control of his own sexual responses. Each man is responsible for his own actions, and, no matter what a woman does, he has no right to any sexual contact with her against her will or without her knowledge.

Dating Rape is not just “he said; she said.” Rape is not just a misunderstanding or the result of a lack of communication. Rape is an act of choice to commit a crime and to forcibly obtain power over another individual through the means of sexual assault.

Dating Rape is not just a misunderstanding. Rape is a criminal act of choosing to overpower a woman and to have sexual intercourse with her without her consent or without her knowledge.

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